self-love is not selfish – it’s the source of love for everything and everyone else ❤
in germany there is a saying: "wir sind die guten" which basically means people with solid moral standards, good intentions and politically correct opinions, in other words the "do-gooders". they walk around with the conviction of being honourable members of their community and often their professions and actions seem to prove their impeccable personalities. the … Continue reading why do we need the bad guy
Remember to take care of yourself. You can't pour from an empty cup" And also: You can't offer your best if there's none to give. And of course you are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm! Take care of your self first. Like in the airplane when we … Continue reading the cup is half full
today I found this amazing quote and I like it so much, that I want to share it : should you ever find yourself the victim of other peoples’ bitterness, smallness or insecurities remember: things could be worse: you could be them“ sometimes people can not deal with their problems and look for an outlet … Continue reading things could be worse
Some people say, that anger and frustration might be a strong drive and motivation to achieve important things in life and to take steps to improve ourselves and our lives. But there seems to be a crucial difference between healthy anger and uncontrollable rage that might lead to destructive behaviour and self-destructive tendencies. For me … Continue reading what are you angry about !?
Many of us have lived in relationships that seemed to go down a downward-spiral of frustration, hurting and bitterness. What can we do when all our efforts to solve some of the interpersonal conflicts and some attempts to find better ways of communication turned out to be futile? The situation seems to be hopeless, but … Continue reading what does “no contact” mean?
It is easy to talk about caring for yourself and forgiving the person(s) that hurt you. It is much less easy to implement this intention into reality. Because how am I supposed to know how to care for myself and love myself, if I never really or sufficiently experienced to be cared for and to … Continue reading about self-care and forgiveness
Why not call a duck a duck !? When you found out that some or many characteristics of a certain "description" or behavioural pattern match a certain person or group, then why not name it ? Well, because, that might be incomprehensible for other people not so familiar with the topic and it also could … Continue reading why avoid labeling ?
In 1961 Hannah Ahrendt witnessed the trial of Adolf Eichmann who administered the deportation of millions of jews to extermination camps for the german Nazi regime. She recognized that Eichmann not only did not feel guilty, but he lacked any consciousness or perception of the horrible crimes that happened. He portrayed himself as an obedient command … Continue reading banality of evil – hannah ahrendt
it's not that difficult to see if someone in our environment is a kind of bully: they are sometimes loud, bragging and like to dominate. that does not necessarily mean that they are bad people, it's just the way they have been conditioned or the way that their character unfolded. they can sometimes be funny … Continue reading discover what’s supposed to stay hidden